First of all I have to confess that this topic kind of got it’s start as I was reading and of course commenting on a Dramabeans post about Kimi wa Petto‘s K-movie incarnation You’re my pet. There was a commenter that mentioned how Jang Geun Seok appears to have an “inverse manliness” and is more girly than his sister with two kids, so much so that it makes him wonder about the girls who find him attractive. He seems to be implying that we’re not heterosexual… I agreed with another commenter who responded to him saying that there are plenty of “straight” girls out there that find feminine looking guys attractive.
I tried to put my thoughts to words, but I’m not sure if I made myself clear on a point I tried to get accross, which was that I love a “manly” attitude more than “manly” looks, which I think was also a misnomer on my part. it’s not necessarily “manly” per se, because a woman can have those qualities too, the five basic qualities to my interpretation of “manliness” are:
1) Knows what he/she wants.
2) Goes for it no matter what.
3) Is considerate and loyal to friends.
4) Knows that he/she isn’t perfect and works to improve
5) Are not easily butt hurt over offhand comments that weren’t meant to hurt– (I can’t stand easily offended people and I’ve met “beastly” men who look like they could slay a dragon, and are easily slayed themselves by a comment)
Anyways that was a long intro just to say that I prefer “beautiful” men and not “rugged men.” and that manliness as I wish to interpret it has nothing to do with those looks. I do appreciate “rugged” men but I’m not attracted to them… I think that’s why my list of crushes includes people like, Heechul, Jang Geun Seok, Song Joong Ki, Hyun Bin, and Jung Ilwoo over, say actors like Cha Seung Won.
however that doesn’t mean I can’t ever crush on a ‘rugged’ looking man, because if he has the qualities I see as manly, and attractive, why not?
what are your preferences? why?